The lie is that love is “colorblind.”
Tell that to the Asian man living in America – the quiet, nice guy who was raised to believe that women liked respectful, hardworking guys. And then time after time he is shot down, laughed at by Asian women who “prefer white men.” Tell that to their own children – who observe the world and realize that perhaps there is a trend; perhaps what brought their parents together wasn’t love, but something else.
Asian women discount an entire ethnic group; they say they are too short, too small, too nerdy. Then they hook up with short white men, nerdy white men; anything but Asian. They discount the tall, good looking Asian men that exist. Therefore, it is not about love, but entirely about race. They desire whiteness – whatever it entails, to be associated with it, to be submitted to it, to be fucked by it.
It is an expression of power. We all do it. We’re all so fucking arrogant that we think that we’re entitled to our choices – but we don’t consider, not even for a fucking minute, what it will do to our children. The Asian male may justify, and rationalize it, by saying, oh, it must be about culture. The Asian woman will justify it by pointing out that Asian men are the world’s most patriarchal boogiemen, while ignoring the fact that white men have exterminated, like rats, hundreds of millions of people.
The Hapa will acknowledge it for what it is: our mothers were fucking no-good rotten WHORES.
But why aren’t these women happy? They know, deep down, that they can never be white. That’s the thing – that’s the cut of it. It cuts them deeply. That’s why these couples never look happy; there is the divide, the knowing reason that what they’re doing is because of something, not for love.
Because they hate Asian men, or aren’t attracted to Asian men, or because White people / culture is better, more attractive; because Asian women will submit to them where the white woman won’t; because white women are too liberated, or won’t pay attention to a white male.
But they know – deep down – that the children, the HAPA, will NEVER be white – not by any immediate definition; if anything, he will be a close approximation, an imitation, like me, someone who can pass but will always be on guard against something he can never understand or be accepted into (for whatever reason). And this bites them, and cuts to the bone. So when the child is born, they rationalize it.
The because becomes a lie that they feed to their child, the child who lives on both sides, who sees things objectively as someone who cannot possibly be as racist as their parents – as someone who avoids both the privilege of being a white male AND the privilege of being an Asian female. He realize his parents were fucking despicable.