I find when white men online say hateful things, their apologists like to brush it off, as oh thats just a troll. Even IRL they can say, oh hes just one guy. But those excuses don’t work.
The last election results 64% of white males voted for the Republican Party. Its not just that they are conservative but that they have become the party of White Nationalism. I don’t mean Heil Hitler rallies, but they represent the interests of the disgruntled white male who feels he has lost his country. And remember that 64% is the total US white male population, including all the supposed hip, liberal, open-minded blue states.
Just look at the 2012 election results for white males http://www.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeedpolitics/what-the-2012-election-would-have-looked-like-with#.dbgE82Yx
The white male rage is real, and their new frontier across the Pacific is the solution for many of them. The hypocrisy is that much of their anger is driven by white women dating Black and Muslim men. But imagine if 40% of white women were only dating Black men and excluding whites. How batshit insane would the white man go under those circumstances? We Hapas have to live with it, and be born of it, and yet the same angry white men have the nerve to just laugh off our problems and call us racist.
Similarly when I first came to China I had internalized white supremacist ideals as a way to compensate for my poor self-esteem; white women with black males was a particular trigger for me.
I would say that not all white males are racist but a lot are. I myself have had to combat negative impressions I had about Asians for a long time; (I respected them as people but was not able to come to terms with my Asian appearance, judging myself much harder than even other people judged me). It’s easy for white men to internalize their “marginalization” in society and take it out on people they see as easy targets – Asians.
Even if these sentiments are casual and subconscious, they still exist, and then their own children internalize them, one way or another, and if they’re not properly dealt with, then you have outbursts like ER.
Similarly if a child is raised to be both white enough to benefit from white privilege, yet not white enough to deal with the sexual / psychological / social marginalization that comes from casual and overt white racism, the child is at a unique risk for self-implosion and self-hatred.
My definition of white privilege is as follows: being white means that you are objectively viewed as “neutral” (a positive) rather than being instantly associated as a negative, unless you are exceptional, after which you are viewed as “exceptional.”
wm/af = (almost) always complete beta faggot of a white guy + ugly-ass Asian woman
am/wf = across the whole spectrum, though one thing is clear: the wf cares a LOT more about her Asian kids than the af does. Afterall, if the Asian woman had her way, the kids would come out as pale as a piece of paper!
So yes, both relationships do attract different people, BUT it is the attitude that gets them into these relationship that is more fucked up…and I don’t think we need to explain the motives behind these ‘relationships’ here lol
I do suspect that my mother treated me different based on my “whiter” appearance. As I grew older my appearance became more Asian and ultimately I suspect that when I am 50 I will look completely Chinese; growing up being raised to value my White side more, left me ill equipped to understand my role in the world as a Eurasian man living in a white-dominated culture.
As I got older, I started to look more Asian (I guess by the time I’m 50 I’ll look completely Chinese) which became less compatible with what I was taught, especially since my dad is / was a white nationalist type.
I guess the point is regardless if there are good normal Hapa boys out there, the confusion alone combined with elevated risk for mental heath / inherited psychological flaws puts them at special risk. And if the parents are racist (which they probably will be in some cases, not all) the child has little recourse to deal with it especially if he looks completely Asian.
Part of the whole “not being white” thing is survivable only because one has parents that teach one to cope in a very hostile environment.