IF ASIAN WOMEN ARE WORLD-FAMOUS FOR HAVING "WHITE FEVER" AND HATING ASIAN MEN, WHAT HAPPENS WHEN THEY HAVE A SON WHO LOOKS ASIAN? WHAT HAPPENS WHEN ASIAN WOMEN SAY "NO ASIAN MEN," AND HALF ASIAN SONS HEAR THE SAME? I HAPPEN. THIS IS THE BLOG OF A DARTMOUTH EDUCATED EURASIAN SON OF A RACIST, NAZI-SYMPATHIZING, HOLOCAUST DENYING, HOMOPHOBIC CONSERVATIVE, UNDEREMPLOYED, CONSPIRACY THEORIST WHITE MAN AND A HONG KONG WOMAN WHO HAD "WHITE FEVER," DOCUMENTING THE IMMENSE DAMAGE AND ABUSE DONE OVER 20 YEARS OF LIVING UNDER ONE OF THE MOST HATEFUL, RACIST PAIRINGS ON EARTH. FORMER NEO-NAZI, FORMER EXTREME RACIST, AND YES, HALF ASIAN.
AMWF: Handsome, full head of hair, mentally stable + a nice woman who loves him for who he is, and is sexually attracted to him, and wants her kids to look Asian like him.
WMAF: Unattractive, racist, bottom of the barrel, hypocritical anti-feminist who marries a cruel, asexual, mentally ill, hostile, negative, self hating Tiger Mom who wants her kids to look white, and marries for social status, money, and bragging rights that her child isn’t Asian (even though the child is Asian), while talking shit about Asian men and white women alongside her loser, insecure husband.
Only a matter of time before a WMAF couple kills an AMWF couple.
A WMAF offspring kills an AMWF couple. (Oh wait, that already happened in Elliot Rodger)
This is long but I think it’s absolutely necessary and since my work has wound up in the NYTimes (when I wrote about White Nationalists who literally f***ing target Asian women, like my dad did, and some Op Ed writer literally just copy-pasted my list), I might as well go further with this. I’ll try to make it interesting.
I want to explain fetishes and racism, simply because I want the world to be a better place and because I want people to be aware of this – because I’m telling you that there are going to be high risk hapa kids out there.
I do not think I “own” Asian women, or that I particularly have a “preference” for them; I am writing specifically about what it is like trying to keep my sanity in a very racist society, with a mentally ill, self-hating, terminally-depressed, controlling, screaming, violent and cruel Asian mother, and a racist, anti-social, misanthropic, friendless, conspiracy-theorist and rejected white father (who is essentially autistic and would never have been able to form a relationship with a non-Asian woman and idealized Asian society as being more “traditional,” but merely because he was unable to compete socially or financially in Western society), who used Asian women as “revenge” against society that he viewed as degenerate, liberal, and anti-white; I have encountered racism specifically for my Asian half, and have gone through white-supremacist phases as a way to compensate for my insecurity.
It’s also an introspective look at my own ego. What I’m talking about are:
half Asian white supremacists / more half Asian spree shooters – some of them championing white supremacy,
white male Neo-Nazi spree shooters with Asian wives or girlfriends,
White men physically and violently attacking Asian guy / white woman couples, despite having Asian girlfriends and wives (already happened when Stephen Paddock shot a half-Asian guy who looked 100% Asian)
white nationalists (or at least, ultra conservatives) with Asian wives (already happening by the hundreds of thousands),
and Asian women appearing alongside men with disagreeable politics (already happening) –
as long as those politics either preserve, further or don’t endanger her ability to assimilate. Essentially we’re talking about a complete amorality. Not feminism, not liberalism but a complete amorality on behalf of a group of women desperate to feel included and attractive.
White women generally date out (on the rare case that they do) because they are liberal and like personality. Asian women date out because they are amoral, filled with resentment, and bitter about their low-status, and want to feel beautiful and accepted and so go out of their way to attack any and all Asian-looking men, including half-Asians. So white guys who hate white women for being liberal, go after Asian women who want to feel just as beautiful as “traitorous” white women.
It’s a mind****, right? But listen.
I believe that there is not a single political motive or expression of masculine energy that is not driven by sex and the male ego. These white racists with Asian wives and girlfriends, in their minds, rationalize it by convincing themselves that Asian women are more beautiful than white women, simply because Asian women have white-ish skin, and don’t behave like white women. But they know this isn’t true (Asian women vary in appearance) so these same men remain staunchly racist and bitter, keeping and bragging about access to easy Asian women as a last ditch booster on their racist masculinity. Essentially – the appeal of Asian women to white racists is not because of how they look (well, perhaps it is driven by pornography), but moreso the feeling of step-ladder masculinity, where White men who are rejected by women, feel at least that they can dominate Asians, and Asian women, and thereby recover their lost power.
Racist white men seek out Asian women to express power that was taken from them by progressive politics; these same white men almost ALWAYS have a very open mouth about anything and everyone – Asian men and White women in particular, which you would not expect from someone in a happy relationship.
These white racists with Asian girlfriends are in fact bitter about their rejection by non-Asian women and only use their “relationship” as a ways of “getting back” at a society that rejected them – and so if they see an Asian guy, who in their mind is beneath them, with an White woman, who was their first choice, they snap, despite being in a “relationship.”
A little bit about me: as I said, my father is essentially a white nationalist barring his wife. He has extremist pro-Western views, and many of these types view Western civilization on the decline thanks to, you guessed it, liberalism driven by White women (and Jews). To call him an anti-Semite is like calling the Mount Everest a tall hill. The dude is essentially Hitler. An Asian wife wasn’t an oxymoron for him; it made perfect sense, since White women were too slutty and feminist and liked dating black guys – Asian women treated conservative white men right. For a long, long time I avoided not only White women (I find them unattractive), and Asian women (I find their behavior repugnant). I have dated black women the most (they really like Asian guys, and I got shit for this by, you guessed it, my dad and mom), followed by Indian and Middle Eastern with some Latinas, and only one white woman, which I didn’t really like (I couldn’t get hard with her). I generally am only turned on by women of color.
I think I can extrapolate my unattraction to white women as being proof that the only reason some guys would only date them, was for some kind of power reason, and since I as a red blooded male could not get a boner with a white woman spread eagle in front of me, I’d say that it’s not difficult to imagine Asian women being turned off by some fat, sweaty white dude in front of her. However on hearing “I don’t like Asian guys,” and racist comments about my appearance from non-Asian guys, (I think I look very Asian), yet having a white dad who is literally a Goebbels fanboy, and a mom who, among all her sisters, married white dudes,
it was natural for me to become a white supremacist.
You’ll see this “behavior” in the majority of Half Asians, wherever you look. The overwhelming “half Asian master race” yapping that comes out of their mouths is just cover for their insecurity.
I am decidedly the better looking brother, and my brother looks completely Asian and is 35 and has never had a girlfriend. But I have a history of being extremely racist against others because of my white dad and Asian moms’ influence, and if anyone wants to understand half-Asian identity merely look at it as a layered cake of deep seated insecurity about looking Asian, topped by the whipped cream of white supremacy.
Lots of white guys who brag about how Asian women are easy for whites, go into an intense rage seeing Asian and Eurasian guys with white women. They don’t do this with black guys and a lot of white men have developed this strange, inexplicable submissiveness to black men, which they rationalize by calling white women disgusting after saying “I don’t care, I prefer Asian women.” Yet they’re still insane racists even against their own sons.
In my history, when I identified as white, I did the same thing, when I saw prettier girls than the ones I could get, with Asian guys – and this seems to be the case where Asian men get much prettier (and nicer) women than the reverse.
It’s so bizarre that you have white guys jerking off to Blacked.com, with a Half Asian son in upstairs playing Legos, who are on the same porn websites downvoting AMWF videos to oblivion while their Asian wife slaps around in slippers nagging them.
I’ve also noticed that a lot of guys who chase Asian women have this incessant need to belittle Asian guys, despite raising Asian sons. This is almost exclusive to Asians; essentially you don’t see them talk so much about, like, fucking African or Muslim women, that are also famously “not corrupted by feminism.” In their mind, they’re making America great again by getting with Asian women but the extent of their concern to POC including Asians ends right after ejaculation.
Essentially, hatred for Asians and love for Asian pussy is exactly the same. It’s got its foundation in porn. I firmly don’t believe that a charming, good looking guy who has to choose between a beautiful non-Asian woman and an equally attractive Asian woman, would go for the Asian woman unless he has deliberate bad intent, because of the stigma.
So naturally you have millions of White racist dudes who fantasize about Asian women merely because they’re easy as long as you’re a maladjusted White male, but they turn around and just can’t shut the hell about how Asian males are inferior. I guess in their mind, that’s how they justify to themselves why Asian women are easy for non-Asian guys while non-Asian women won’t give them the time of day.
This is fairly common. /r/CCJ2 and /r/China are prime examples of the utter hatred, passive aggressiveness, and anger that seemingly “happily married” men have for Asians, being married to Asian women. Have you ever noticed that the white men who “like” Asian women are overwhelmingly hostile, passive aggressive, and seem to have a “racist tourettes” wherein they cannot stop mouthing off about Asian men and minorities?
My suspicion it has to do with just the bad mojo, the screaming and violence, the sexlessness, and the very hostile, antisocial Asian wife, in these couples. If you look in the mirror, every day for 40 years, and hate what you see, you aren’t in love; you’re in hate, with yourself, with your husband, because he likes you, an ugly Asian – and what kind of white guy prefers a woman who is ugly, in her own mind, over a white woman? And so she grows to hate him, as well, and he, her, for not being white, as he wanted. But he probably just hates the way she expresses her hostile, ruthless, just plain nasty Asian attitude to life (ASSIMILATE, INTEGRATE, SUCCEED), all spoken in a nasally whiny voice.
The guys who “like” Asian women don’t actually like them, but just see them as surrogates for the power that they feel they’ve had taken from them by feminists and minorities. That’s why you can easily be a white supremacist with an Asian wife, because you’re a white male supremacist and white women just won’t fuck you; it’s that simple. It’s deep seated entitlement that I understand because I’m half white and could pass for white as a younger guy. Essentially white men mistake Asian obsession for xenomorph-like assimilation practices as proof of sexual superiority, despite being in sexless relationships with Asian women.
And I think eventually being nagged by a self hating Asian woman (who arguably, given that the worst and ugliest ones go for whites), makes these men start to hate Asians, so they badmouth Asian men as a stand in for their wives, or their inability to really ever feel truly “powerful,” despite essentially truly believing that Asian women throw themselves at white men.
Let’s be honest here, there are good looking and ugly in every race, but the belief that Asian men are ugly fuels yellow fever, which essentially is a last ditch attempt at sexuality by rejected white men. There’s nothing wrong with Asian male looks and many are handsome, but the white male mind doesn’t see it like that. They can rationalize white women with black men as being because of black males’ dicks (hence racist white America’s obsession with interracial porn featuring black men and white women), but they can’t rationalize Asian males because most white men are inherently incapable of seeing things from another perspective. What’s worse is that since many Asian women are asexual, they historically have been trapped in survival mode so that’s why they have no problem with hideously ugly white men.
So you have a shit ton of white racist men who go nuts over Asian women as this far off safety net for white male sexuality, but these guys just HATE seeing Asian men with white women and even ASIAN WOMEN. So while non-Asian women may find Asian guys handsome, they face endless harassment from ugly Asian women and the white guys who need them for an ego boost.
These guys are creating Asian sons. Some of them you would have no idea were mixed. It’s hard for me to describe but I had a hard, hard time figuring out how to not want to be a white supremacist like my parents while on the other hand was being mocked for being Asian.
I’d say the bulk of guys I knew around me had a very passive aggressive pattern towards Asian males (including myself, it just seems to be that they have an incessant need to just talk about my Asianness) but seemed to be open to Asian women while talking shit about “feminist cunts.”
The other men I knew (who dated white women and were handsome and genuinely nice people), would always comment on how handsome I am. So if you’re a handsome Asian or Eurasian male you are literally expected to be single and stay away from not only non-Asian women but Asian women as well. And given that Eurasian and even Asian guys can be very attractive (look at KPop) my suspicion is that racism is just purely sexual jealousy and pettiness from white men.
Essentially, it takes insane mental endurance to be Half Asian and be subjected to the kind of crap we have to deal with. But I am fearful for many Half Asians that have to bear the brunt of this kind of thing. Half Asians with Asian dads inherit their fathers’ (and usually mothers’) looks as well as endurance, while half Asians with white dads inherit their dads’ pettiness and insecurity as well as their tiger mom’s nightmarish, violent, soulless parenting with the pure attempt to integrate into the reigning power structure, ala typical Asian mentality which seems to function on two modes: assimilate, or die.
I.e., the Hapacalypse.
Because now you have a ton of half Asians that are going to be ruthlessly mocked by their own extended mothers and fathers every time one shows up on TV. Just because white men like Asian women doesn’t mean that they care about Asians. The extent of the concern towards Asians stops after the easy pussy. I say pussy because Asian women aren’t really sought out for their faces, or culture, because most Asian and Eurasian guys know that they are tigers dressed like schoolgirls hence you have an entire island that’s sworn them off. Asian women regardless of how “beautiful” they are, are perpetual second or third choices, and they know this. That’s why they complain about yellow fever – because decent men who respect themselves and respect Asians don’t go after Asian women.
This is an explicitly Asian only problem, and doesn’t have an equivalent in other races.
The reason this doesn’t exist is because other minorities have strong images of fear / strength that intimidate people enough that their hindbrain understands the “inferior white female” as being attracted to violent, dominant men.
That’s why I’m terrified for these potentially insane half Asians. I am not angry at Asian out marriage rates; I am angry that it subjects us to very, very bad white fathers (essentially the world’s rejects who want to feel relevant against modernism) and I am angry that it doesn’t mean that we integrate (I know Asians, being the way they are, seem to view Half Asians as white, but the reality is that whites don’t view us as white as soon as they find out we have Asian blood.) I’m also angry that white losers trying to fuck Asian women worked around the clock to make Asian and Eurasian men feel like shit and keep us from fulfilling relationships with, say, black women, which I actually prefer.
It just means that a subset of white men are using Asian self-hatred to their advantage. I am also angry that if you are partially Asian, you are made your entire life to feel ashamed of it, to hide it, even by women that would otherwise be our mothers. Asian people actually encourage you to hide it. Half-Asian men are harassed for wanting healthy, fulfilling relationships with non-Asian women. It’s 100% an unavoidable, freight train of a disaster waiting to happen, because you have literally millions of these half-Asian kids that are being raised as white, ashamed of their race, and being born to hostile, antisocial white men who hate seeing White women with men of color and use Asian women as a layover flight till they find a “real” woman. Elliot Rodger was only the beginning, if I’m being perfectly honest.
The proximity to whiteness is what really screws up half-Asians, who are trained – by their mothers and fathers – to believe that Asian appearance (on a male) is a cardinal sin, and that assimilating to the powered group is the only function in life.
Most men are very pathetic, very insecure people who feel the need to constantly one-up men who they feel are more handsome and more talented than them. The overwhelming majority of mean and nasty comments I’ve ever received were from white men shorter than me, and unattractive Asian women. Just really hurtful stuff. One guy I knew had a white girlfriend who went to Asia to teach English and he confided in me, “I wonder if she’ll miss big American penis.” This same guy had a history with Asian women. He’s an incredibly bitter, insecure guy and people like him just wore me down, over and over, with the Asian comments, until I had a mental breakdown which I’m still reeling from.
I think I’m beautiful, I think Asian guys are beautiful, and the issue isn’t Asian women dating out in a desperate attempt to get food on their plates, it’s the fact that by doing so, they make Asian male looks a target for everyone in the world to mock (or hurt, or kill). I probably look whiter than most Eurasians, and so everyone thinks I’m crazy for talking about this, but spending an entire life hiding your ethnicity is hell, not heaven; and given that so many half-Asians I’ve seen personally look 100% Asian, I think that it’s going to be compounded in them.
The problem is that insecure white men use Asian women as a masculinity-validation (and Asian women use unattractive white men as a beauty validation within a society that rejects them by default), and ultimately this just hurts Eurasians and Asian looking men, because in a system of white supremacy, it doesn’t matter what or how you look like, you will still suffer. Just because these guys like Asian girls, doesn’t mean they accept Asian guys, and most Eurasians look Asian as hell and so we’ll see the results of this in a few years if not months.
If you add to the fact that non-Asian men see Asian women as this easy tool to prove they can “get laid,” but at the same time, don’t respect Asian women and just view them as a layover to the real prize, these men can be incredibly dangerous. Lots of these guys view Asian women as essentially being too easy for non-Asian guys, and in their mind they know they’re not attractive men, and they know the women are with them simply because they were easy, and it bothers them, and the nagging from the wife, the sexlessness (see JimCanuck) and rage, and being mocked and smirked at on the street for being a stereotype, makes these same men very angry, and racist, hence /r/CCJ2.
It makes them dangerous to not only Asian guys but Asian looking Hapa guys.
Re: the half Asian guy who was shot by Stephen Paddock.
Look at how Dave Chappelle for example looks terrible, he looks tired, fat, bloated and undersexed. I guarantee he is in a sexless marriage with his wife, and so he weaponizes Asian jokes as a way to take the power back. Maybe his lack of sex compelled him to take up lifting and going back into comedy like any old MGTOW with an Asian fetish.
Elliot Rodger would definitely have shot a half Asian guy who looked Asian, if he saw him. And I guarantee you, more and more beleaguered husbands to Asian women will be making the news for violence.
Eventually you’re gonna see some white nationalist on the news with an Asian wife at home who he left watching TV while he was shooting at Asian male / white female couples at the mall.
It’s like saying that Tyrese Gibson or Idris Elba can walk down a street at night without fear of being shot by the police, because they’re handsome.
That kind of dehumanizing racism really just destroys you inside when it becomes so common it’s just impossible not to notice. I’m deathly afraid for my children because this kind of racism seems acceptable and I don’t want them to feel this way and maybe because I love my wife and future kids so much this forum is an extension of my perpetual rage at racism.
I feel the majority of people around me my entire life have used me as a battering ram for their own fragile male egos. All I ever wanted was to just exist, to be happy, to do the things I love to do, without being judged and hurt by other men.
This only exists with Asian women. Only, only, only. Asian and Eurasian males are used as human toilets for fragile male egos, and some women are just so desperate to feel “included” and like they’re actually wanted by society and that they’re actually beautiful (behind closed doors most Asian women think they’re hideously ugly) that they get with the absolute most hostile men on the planet.
I love the way I look, I love my wife and I love being alive, but I am deeply disturbed and scared by a world that pretends that it’s so wonderful but is filled with such utter hate driven by sexuality. And sexuality is tied to race.
No white man alive can understand the feeling of being devalued for your race and every Hapa who pretends this is not an issue is just puffing out his chest because most men are so insecure of their own insecurity they will hide it until the end.
This is why Half Asians with white dads and Asian moms are the highest risk people on the planet. Blacks, Latinos and Arabs have their own in-groups, but also have more masculine self image that allows them to engage in relationships with women of their own race and outside of it, without harassment. But the guys that are literally spree shooters in the making are the ones who target Asian women as a way to feel big, and more often than not the “validation” from Asian women isn’t validation at all, but just an empty relationship.
Half Asians are harassed for their Asianness, not just by others, but literally by people who are our own parents. Add the ultra conservative, anti-feminist, MRA, MGTOW dad, and an Asian mom whose entire life has been based on the line: “suck it up, you’re white, better than being Asian,” and you have such a high risk demographic it blows my mind.
Either way I’ve always noticed that AMWF, AMBF and AMLF couples seem so happy, because the men are handsome (and the ceiling for Asian guys, I feel, is higher than even white men when it comes to women of true beauty), and I think that if society ever wants to find a link to spree shooting and violence and masculinity they need to look at this.
There is an incredible long list of white racist men married to Asian women – because White women (in their words) “are mudsharks, coalburners, and feminists.” These white men see Asian women as unwilling to sleep with black men, having a low number of sexual partners, family oriented, traditional, chaste, more loyal, and supportive of white supremacy.
But these same men all turn around and viciously attack Asian guys and White women.
What do you think when these racist non-Asian guys and their Asian brides have children who look Asian?
I have had non-Asian guys sleep with Asian women (because these men were unattractive and racist), and the same day mock me for my Asian appearance.
The vast majority of the world fetishizes Asian women as being easy to screw and being submissive and being “available” as long as you are hungry for a date. It doesn’t mean Asian women are the hottest, or most desirable, but simply “the easiest”, compared to women of their own race. I’m being very, very honest as a Eurasian guy.
In fact many non-Asian guys, including White men (in particular), will use Asian women as a safety-net against being single, or what is commonly known as “being incel.”
Since “incel” men are the most hostile, bitter, and violent, the literal bottom of the barrel racist white men target Asian women as a way to get back at women that rejected them.
Incel websites and websites that are devoted to disappointment with the behavior of non-Asian women all, and I mean all, idolize Asian women as being “anti-feminist.”
Essentially, what this means is that Asian women are highly valued by men of all races who struggle with women of their own race, and the “go to” for men who want to “reclaim power”, and want the feeling of being a big man without having to deal with non-Asian women that will challenge that.
And since Asian women are so desperate to get away from their unattractive men and to feel like they are desirable and have status, they will willingly date men who hate Asians.
In other words, because the majority of non-Asian men think Asian men are so pathetic and unmanly, that Asian women are just a “safe bet” if you have any kind of problem with non-Asian women. This means that Asian women are the go-to for guys who are literally on the bottom sexually, emotionally, and socially.
These same guys see Asian guys as sexual punching bags.
In fact the whole world hates seeing Asian guys as sexual beings because Asian men are supposed to be lower than every man on the planet, and there is no way a woman anywhere on the planet (including Asian women) should be with an Asian man, despite empirical evidence that Asian men can marry women, Asian or otherwise, that are over and above stunning. I think this deeply disturbs WMAF couples the most.
Asians are completely unique, on the planet, in the fact that they are considered better only when mixed with something non-Asian; nobody else thinks like this.
Asianness is bad on its own, and Asianness is mocked and discouraged from any self-esteem, and Asian women are very well aware of this and desperately attempt to escape it, and to achieve a non-Asian appearance – which would give them a feeling of “normalcy.”
Since Asianness is abnormal, the vast majority of people feel that they can say and do whatever they want to Asians – because Asian people do not fight back, and especially because Asian women are essentially easy lays for non-Asian guys and Asian guys are inferior by default.
In fact simply because the interracial outmarriage rate is so high – this makes people even more adamant about attacking and degrading Asian people;
and Asianness and Asian identity essentially just becomes the extent of what Asian women can provide a non-Asian man.
When I was single and alone, I too hated seeing Asian men and White women, and since I myself was half-Asian, I was supposed to be better; and most half-Asian men around the globe have this psychology where we all think that we are a “master race” (simply because our mothers were Asian and our fathers non-Asian), despite having nothing to show for it.
So men marry Asian women, and see their Asian wives as a permanent “second choice,” waiting for a non-Asian woman to come back.
That is why men from Dave Chapelle to Kyle Chapman all say “I’m not racist, I’m in an interracial relationship;” but what they really mean is that “I’m racist, I have a huge problem with political correctness and modern progress and Asian women are the only women desperate enough to get away from their own men to tolerate extreme misogynists and anti-social guys like myself.”
Every single white guy or non-Asian guy that gets with Asian women harbors anti-Asian views in particular devoted to the men. They do not respect Asians nor to they see any value to them other than as a pill to heal feminism and women’s standards.
And since Asian women are so easy for non-Asian guys, that must mean that Asian guys are the worst.
Men of all races hate, hate, hate seeing Asian men with non-Asian women, because it reminds them that they failed.
It reminds these men that a man who is supposed to be undesirable even to their own women got a woman that they secretly wanted.
That is why you have white nationalists married to Asian women, but on the side attacking Asian males at every chance they can get, ignoring the incredible damage this does to their children.
There are three options for half Asian kids.
Look white, according to what your parents want
Look mixed, and pretend you are master race (even though most half Asians look like some mystery-ethnicity that tends towards the global average of Latinos or Arabs)
Look Asian, which is what your parents don’t want.
All three are bad, because in all of them, being Asian is a bad, bad, bad thing. Only in the case of Asian – non-Asian relationships, is the mother always the Asian one.
Children internalize that, and no other mixed race pairing is this fundamentally unbalanced – not even black / white marriages.
Non-Asian men absolutely hate seeing Asian looking guys with women.
They are okay seeing “more masculine” types such as black males with White women, because they are intimidated, but in their brains they feel that Asian males are supposed to be fundamentally beneath them, and that they can continuously attack Asian males, despite (but probably because) Asian women being open to everyone is the status quo.
So now we have millions of Asian looking young men being raised by non-Asian guys who use Asian women for an easy lay, yet hate seeing Asian (full or half) guys do even the most basic thing in life.
Asian women seem to know this – but avoid the elephant in the room.
Despite claiming that half-Asians are wildly successful (we are not, especially not compared to half-black people, who white conservative men passionately hate for reminding them of the “treason” of white women), there is no indication that half-Asians with white fathers and Asian mothers have achieved major success, even compared to other mixed-race pairings (such as the worldwide fame of Gigi Hadid and Zayn Malik – both of whom have Pakistani fathers and white mothers).
We can just go out on a limb and say that it’s the overall creepiness of the leering, racist white dad with yellow fever and the self hating Tiger Mom and that entire “dynamic” that screws up biracial Asian sons of WMAF, but it’s deeper than that.
We could also say that most Half Asians with Asian dads involve a tall, handsome, charismatic Asian guy and a very beautiful white woman (due to having high standards on both parts), while most Half Asians with white dads involve a rejected, anti-social, anti-feminist white man and a self-hating Asian woman who can’t stop fighting and won’t touch each other.
Essentially, low-status white males and self-hating Asian women decided that they needed some way to justify an immensely unbalanced and fundamentally racist and elitist pairing, and so they promised hybrid vigor as a way to compensate for the fact that Asian males are hated, while Asian women are adored as an alternative for low-status non-Asian men who failed at relationships.
The best thing an AMWF / AMXF / AMLF couple can do is avoid WMAF, and keep their children away from WMAF. There have been reports (largely on Reddit) of WMAF couples actually going out of their way to denigrate and attack the children of AMWF and we all know now that White men married to Asian women seem to have a perpetual “racial tourettes” where they can’t prevent themselves from saying overwhelmingly racist things about white women, blacks, Asian men, and are so bizarrely creepy that they will actually examine their childrens’ facial features and stare at Hapa men in public as if they are gauging whether or not they want a son who looks more chinky or less.
After fifty years of boasting of some eugenic hybrid vigor (which no other mixed race pairing has promised) – the very best they can do now is steal Keanu Reeves (Asian father), spout off Nathan Adrian (5’11” Chinese mother, an extreme rarity), Olivia Munn (well known for being a horrible person), Kristen Kreuk (a has-been who has never achieved major success), and some half-Filipinos (some of whom aren’t even half Asian) while coming up almost entirely short on famous half-Chinese or half-East Asians with Asian mothers.*
I will use the following paper, “Children and the Shifting Engagement with Racial/Ethnic Identity among Second- Generation Interracially Married Asian Americans,” (Kelly Chong, PhD, University of Kansas, 2013), and the paper “Racial Identity, Family, and Psychological Adjustment in Asian-White Biracial Young Adults” by (Vanessa Chong, University of Windsor, 2012).
Both papers ironically were written by Asian women with white partners – as if they themselves have begun to worry about their own children; they both write specifically that the children of Asian men and White women fare better than the reverse.
The reasons are varied, but I have compiled them all with actual sources, written, ironically, by Asian women with White husbands.
Asian men and white / non-Asian women.
Woman likes the Asian male despite his race and all of the negative stereotypes against him. Generally his race won’t be an “issue” (meaning that many White / black women are completely unaware of what the children of WMAW couples talk about)
“I always felt as if being black was cool,” Mr. Obama said. “[Being black] was not something to run away from but something to embrace. Why that is, I think, is complicated. Part of it is I think that my mother thought black folks were cool, and if your mother loves you and is praising you — and says you look good, are smart — as you are, then you don’t kind of think in terms of ‘How can I avoid this?’ You feel pretty good about it.”
Understands the child will be perceived as Asian and nurtures it in him, unlike White fathers and Asian mothers who hope the child looks white, and truly believes the child is white despite the kid facing extreme overt bullying and harassments from Whites / non-Asians for being Asian.
Many of the Euro- ethnic wives in my study were distinctive in that most of them appeared to be more cognizant about the issue of ethnic identity with regard to their children than were the Euro-American husbands in the study and, for the most part, were enthusiastic about helping their children engage it in some form. (Chong, pp.211)
Doesn’t pretend the kid is going to be a male model
Healthier fundamental basis, no white supremacist, anti-feminist white father who idealizes Asian women; no Asian mother who says horrific things about Asian males.
Loves the Asian male on either his looks or his character or both; doesn’t have delusional ideas about the child being a superhuman based on his race; if anything, completely avoids or shuns the idea that Eurasians are superior due to the fact that they are half white.
Doesn’t talk shit about Asian women.
In contrast to the women who frequently alluded to the nerdy quali- ties of Asian males as reasons for these men’s undesirability, interracially married Asian American men in my study rarely mentioned explicitly the physical shortcomings of Asian females as reasons for not marrying or dating them. (Chong, 2013; Pg. 197-198)
Both parties are conventionally attractive rather than fetishes
Although Asian American women in this study were generally highly assimilated as well, I believe my observations support the findings elsewhere that the assimilation “bar” may be higher for Asian American men than it is for Asian American women who wish to cross the ethnic/racial line in terms of romance and sex. (Chong, pp. 198)
Relationship is not politicized against Asian males or White females, as is the case in WMAW relationships; Asian male does not talk poorly about White men or Asian women
Asian men and white women do not promise Eurasian superhuman myths of their children, which seems common in extremely average looking White male / Asian woman couples. Asian men and white women do not hype up or focus on the child’s Asian features – merely that is is a child whose parents were in love.
While Asian women essentially do not date anyone but White men – Asian men have diverse love interests and oftentimes marry women that are opposed to White supremacist ideals.
The White or non-Asian women who go after or accept an Asian man tend to be more socially conscious and tuned in with the child’s ethnicity and needs.
Many of the Euro- ethnic wives in my study were distinctive in that most of them appeared to be more cognizant about the issue of ethnic identity with regard to their children than were the Euro-American husbands in the study and, for the most part, were enthusiastic about helping their children engage it in some form. (Chong, 2013; pg. 211)
Asian men and White women do not raise their children to be “master race”, push them to be models or actors, – but moreso normal, well adjusted people who are grounded, get good jobs, good education, and develop normal social lives.
White women will not marry an Asian male for status, as this is impossible given the lower status of Asian men.
Asian men actually have to meet a threshold in order to marry a white woman – they have to be good looking, or have a good job, or a great personality. A white man literally needs none of these when marrying an Asian woman, setting a terrible example for the child: i.e., look handsome, white, or die.
Most white men who get with Asian women are generally meek, “weak,” anti-social, Asiaphiles, nerdy, nebbish, or “losers”
Relationship is not about integration and assimilation into Whiteness, but against it
Relationship is not tinted with anti-feminist sentiment
Asian guy needs to hit a certain looks standard (looks are more important to White females than they are to Asian females)
Asian father is traditionally masculine, has good facial ratios and fits conventional attractiveness, which western women find appealing, due to narrow eyes, tan skin, dark coloring
No covert incest between mother and child
Promotes sports and social activities
Confident AMWW children generally date White women / non Asian women
Genuine interest in the Asian culture
Hopes the child looks Asian / dark features
Both parties have friends from a wide range of races and backgrounds
Doesn’t prioritize race, “passing” or “white privilege”
Both parties are historically disenfranchised
A very good looking Asian guy generally will wind up with a woman of another race
White men and Asian women
Woman likes male specifically for his whiteness and status (Hence massively skewed statistics among Asian women and white men – no other minority men)
Hopes child looks white
Praises the child’s light features / Euro features
Strongly hypes up the child’s ethnicity as biracial, promising high status which the child fails to obtain
Child generally strongly disfavors anything but the white side
Another Chinese American mom, Carol, related an incident about one of her young daughters that she found similarly disturbing and unexpected: this daughter, who is more Asian looking than her sister, announced suddenly one day that she did not like Chinese people, or anyone with black hair and dark skin, and chose a book for a school project explaining that it had light-skinned people on the cover. (Chong, pp. 205)
White men / Asian women generally have the most really terrible things to say (Chong, 2013, pg. 197-198) about Asian men and have a complex power dynamic (White father, Asian mother) wherein neither is willing nor able to visualize the problems of the child. After all – Asian women want white children, and don’t seem to care as to how they get them. Asian women will praise White features – ignoring the fact that many half-Asians look totally Asian, either at birth, or in adulthood. This causes the child to hate its Asian side – like Elliot Rodger, and Daniel Holtzclaw.
In contrast to the women who frequently alluded to the nerdy quali- ties of Asian males as reasons for these men’s undesirability, interracially married Asian American men in my study rarely mentioned explicitly the physical shortcomings of Asian females as reasons for not marrying or dating them. (Chong, 2013; Pg. 197-198)
In fact, Monica recalled an incident that was highly disturbing to her. When it was pointed out to her six-year-old son explicitly for the first time that he was half-Korean, she remembered that he almost became angry and horrified, and retorted, “No I’m not!” and ran out of the room. (Chong, pp. 202).
If child is not white, the mother will develop resentment toward him due to loss of status (hence so many Asian women with Asian looking sons displaying anti-social or miserable behavior).
No other interracial pairing, including Asian men / White women pairs, are so obsessed with how their kids look. White men, in particular, have a habit of staring at Eurasian children so as to examine their features in a way that some Nuremberg scientist would.
Extraordinary high rates of mental illness among mothers
The psychological emasculation of the child may start at an early age, especially within white supremacist cultures that love to demean Asian men, whereby the child feels mentally destructed or encouraged to hide his Asian side (which always fails).
White men involved in these relationships blatantly ignore signs that they are being used for their race and privilege, such as nearly constant comments about how “handsome” their western features are (despite not actually being handsome) and then don’t realize that they are being primed to create children like us whose entire value is that we look less Asian than we would normally look.
Encourages child to pass as white, compliments the child’s white features; this doesn’t exist in other biracial pairings where there is so much weird, creepy “examining” of a the child’s features: this is exclusive to WMAF couples.
Discourages child’s Asian features
Asian women historically do not marry for love – only for social benefit – and marriage to a white man, and only a white man, is seen as being the ticket to integration and “superior” children to fulfill a stringent life plan.
Family home environment harshly discourages identification with Asian males, yet promises high status for being mixed with White
Only care about the Asian culture after freaking out abut the child’s Asian looks
White men and Asian women in these relationships generally hate Asian men – yet their sons look Asian to Western society.
They willingly ignore long legacies of white male supremacy in the Western world and willfully ignore clear indications of narcissistic behavior, such as fetishizing the child for his white skin / big eyes.
The entire premise is built on the hope that the child is white passing, whereby the father’s behavior, character (racist, alcoholic, violent, broke), all are non-issues as long as he is white; should the child be Asian looking, neither parent is prepared or willing to help him.
Monica, the Korean American mentioned earlier who in the past struggled painfully with her Korean heritage and appearance, feels that now that she has biracial children, she finds reengaging with Korean culture a simple necessity….
When asked whether she would care about ethnic cultural maintenance had her kids been Euro-ethnic, she confessed that she would not, and that the reason she felt the need to reconnect to her ethnic culture was because her kids have an undeniable Asian appearance. (Chong, 2012; pg. 202)
More often than not – but not always – the father is bottom of the barrel mentally or genetically (the prior in my father’s case) and for whatever reason ignores the woman’s clear white worshipping because he will stoop to any level to get laid… (English teachers, weaboos, nerds). Essentially men that were never intended to reproduce manage to find a way by virtue of having white skin.
Essentially any white guy can get an Asian woman
Both parties limit themselves to white friends
White privilege is taught to the child, and even encouraged by both parents
Many very unattractive white men go for Asian women as a fallback
Near constant debasement of Asian maleness in the home
Strong animosity towards anything and everyone Asian
Strong dislike of AMWW couples
WMAW children generally limited to dating Asian women due to low self esteem
White father harasses children and makes Asian jokes
White father is oftentimes earning much less than the mother
White father is oftentimes a “loser” or a racist who sees Asian women as “replacement” white women who appreciate white men – leading to the child retaining the racist mentality.
Higher divorce rates
High parental health complications.
Just look at these couples. The power imbalance alone (75-80% of all Hapas having White fathers is enough of an implicit message that Asian men are inferior) is enough to cast a side eye at them…. now imagine the result of being the child.
Why the HELL are the most successful Eurasians to come out of EUROPE of all places – the hotbed of extreme racism, produce uniformly successful half Asians with Asian fathers despite being outnumbered?
These are all more or less familiar names – where are the ones with white fathers?*
American television, in the last year or two, has featured six Eurasians that I’m aware of.
SIX out of SEVEN of these half-Asians on AMERICAN TELEVISION in recurring roles have white mothers.
Rush Hour – Jon Foo
Marco Polo – Remy Hii
Agents of Shield – Chloe Bennett
House of Cards – Sandrine Holt
Elektra – Elodie Yung
The Amazing Race – Zach King
Criminal Minds – Daniel Henney.
Here are all the aggregated links discussing why the reasons AM/WW seems to produce top feeding success stories, while WM/AW produces dregs and burnouts.
*I will admit that half Philipinos seem successful. I don’t know why – but East Asian mothers really love to try to highjack half-Filipinos to fill out rosters; why can’t they name any half Chinese sons beyond 2 or 3?
*I am aware there are successful half Asians – by law of numbers there will be. Fifty years of WMAW pairings would logically produce a few; yet despite being vastly outnumbered the children of Asian men / White women seem to have gone above and beyond – I would imagine being a Bond girl, a massive celebrity in Switzerland of all places would count as very successful.
When you have a son, your privilege as a blue-eyed white male is thrown out the door.
Whereas, if your partner were constantly complimenting your blue eyes, your son will not be able to leverage his blue eyes in order to secure a mate. He will instead have to rely on different factors, and since the number of women, including Asian women, who openly favor Asian men, is much lower, this will be damaging to his emotional well-being. For every Asian woman who deliberately rejected Asian men, so forth will your Eurasian son be rejected. My clash with my monumental ego and narcissism, years back, where I was literally obsessed with my looks, sent me into a rage when I was rejected by a white woman for being Asian (I’ve mentioned this many times before).
On “beautiful Hapa babies.”
This is by and large a lie. All babies are universally cute, but this does not translate to being an attractive male. A desire for a beautiful baby is essentially on par with having a pet; hence you see many divorced Asian women (divorced largely because of their insane behavior, like my mother’s, wherein the child is part of a fantasy) using their children as status symbols. My mother constantly showed me off to her siblings and mentioned my tall nose and deep eyes whereas ostracizing my father, but again, this does not translate to necessary success in the future; it is borderline narcissism wherein the love for the child is not love per se, but love as long as [qualifications] exist.
If you do a youtube search for “half asian babies” you will find a number bragging about how their children have blue eyes; despite this being impossible, the idea that such white worship is prevalent is extremely, extremely troublesome.
My case was unusual. My mother seemed to like my brother more than me despite him being black haired, black eyed. She Tiger Mommed him more than me, but less cruelly; I began to think that it was because I was either born via C-section or because I didn’t look like her, or even some kind of resentment towards me. My memory doesn’t go back that far so I can’t figure out the reason for this yet.
On “beauty;” In fact, any person who will want to make the distinction (i.e., a person who doesn’t like Asians) will not differentiate between full Asian and half, even if you don’t look Asian. Go on any website discussing white looking Eurasians like Adam Smith or Cary Fukunaga, and the comments are there.
I’ve come across many Hapas who complained of feeling embarrassed while walking with their parents. I have experienced this too, but moreso, more when walking with my father (as my mother is dead).
Regardless of their intentions, (and I know my parents’ were bad), the assumptions made that my father was an Asiaphile, a loser, or couldn’t get a white woman are there. In my case, they were true, but I don’t think most people bother to differentiate when it’s so common. Obviously, there will be exceptions to this rule, particularly among less intelligent Hapas, like my brother.
It’s frankly impossible for a Eurasian to not notice the interracial imbalance unless they come from entirely white states.
I think many Eurasians that you meet on the street, especially the tall, good looking ones, tend to favor White women (if they can) out of a subconscious rejection of the “white-fever” and “yellow-fever” they are associated with by extension, in any major American city. Another thing could be their rejection of their Asian side, as it is obvious to them that looking Asian is frankly a death sentence. Part of me thinks that Eurasian women do this too, mostly out of a repugnance for their own mothers… if you go read some of the comments on this blog, there are a ton of Eurasian girls complaining about emotional abuse from their mothers.
There are going to be a tremendous, massive amount of Hapas / Eurasians born in the coming years; almost all of them with white fathers. The amount of baggage from this is going to be too much for these young people to handle. I don’t give two shits about the behavior of Asian men or other cultural reasons for this. The outcome remains uniform.
Asian women are deliberately saying that Asian men are not worthy, inferior, or generally sub-par in comparison to Asian, and even non-Asian men. There is no way that a generation of half-Asians is going to be able to generate a healthy identity as a result of this. A handful of “successful” Eurasians that you met in passing doesn’t indicate anything.
The majority of these Hapas will have had mothers that explicitly said “no Asians.” The rest will have Asian mothers who didn’t necessarily hate Asian men, but still decided that a white man was more suitable than an Asian man. Even more will have mentally-unstable mothers who decided irrationallythat white men provided a fantasy for her, one that he was stupid or selfish enough to entertain. (Mine was a combination of all three, hence the broken marriage). I suspect this is mere biology at play, wherein the average white guy is a better choice than the average Asian male; I suspect this has something to do with primitivism and body hair, or something else. Probably has to do with integration and more-so to do with utter fantastical dreaming. If you’re not sure, just look at how Asian women talk behind closed doors about “blue eyes” and European features. I’ve heard it time and time again.
As most Eurasians will notice that all other Eurasians have white fathers, and will come in contact with Asian women who say “no Asians,” this is setting an incredibly dangerous precedent. The difference between “bad couples” and “good couples” is going to be incredibly difficult to differentiate between as Asian women are seen time, after time, after time and time again with white men.
My father was, and is a “respectful” Asiaphile and at one point a PhD candidate in East Asian Studies, who could speak two Asian languages and yet the agony of being biracial remains; the agony of having a mother who valued race above anything remains; the agony of having a bad person as a mother remains, the agony of being rejected from both sides remains; the agony of having to live with the embarrassment of saying that my mother is Asian and my father white, remains.
What’s happening is this:
Asian women are choosing handsome white men over ugly Asian men
Asian women are choosing ugly white men over handsome Asian men
Asian women are choosing handsome white men over handsome Asian men
Asian women are choosing bad white men over good Asian men
Asian women are choosing bad white men over bad Asian men
Asian women are choosing good white men over bad Asian men
As we have seen with Daniel Holtzclaw and Elliot Rodger, the potential blowback from this is tremendous, as young Eurasian men are reminded constantly of their low value before they even set out the door. There is absolutely nothing that could convince a Eurasian with eyes in his head of his inherent value when this is so common.
I challenge anyone who reads this to provide me a reason why this is not fundamentally correct on a terrifying level.
Imagine the utter hell of being a Eurasian son but being literally surrounded by Asian women who literally worship white men, and even worse, seeing this within your own home. We live this every day. The ones who don’t look white enough to disregard any discussion of race.
Essentially, these couples are expecting Eurasians to take this baggage, and figure it out on their own, independently, without a single word of advice from two people completely opposed to their interests as Eurasian men.
I’m guessing you guys didn’t think that one through, did you.
Yeah, good luck. Seriously. You’re all going to need it. There are literally millions of us and all it would take would be another Renz, Holtzclaw, De Grood or Rodger before it becomes your problem. Or, you could read this website and reexamine your entire lives to prevent what is now inevitable.
Or you could pretend I’m not Eurasian, everything I said is a lie, and go back to whatever meaningless crap you do.
Asian women that refuse their own men are probably not the best people, by the same rule of thumb that men of other races operate on (e.g., most black men would despise a black woman who hated black men; most white men would despise a white woman who hated white men). Even the Asian women who post here married to white men reveal “telling” character issues.
This is all well and dandy except the marriage results in children who grow up with parents who never actually liked each other and were together for the sake of convenience or fetishism. On top of that we’re constantly reminded that Asian men, which we are, failed to be seen, even by Asian women, as worthy of existing.
Somebody posted this video on Reddit. Looking through the comments it seems a lot of white men came to an agreement. I didn’t watch all of it, maybe the first three minutes but that’s enough to make my commentary.
White men falsely perceive Asian women as being more morally sound. This is incorrect because any morally sound woman wouldn’t idealize the men of another race. This isn’t racist. This is saying that in a moral ideal, races wouldn’t have different values; most men are way too egotistical and / or naive to question the behavior of why a woman likes them.
(The issue becomes much more complex when Asian-looking sons are involved, however; hence I am forced to think about these things while my father is not.)
White men go through their entire lives not overtly being hit on by women, and then an Asian woman does it and they don’t see red flags; despite a decade of being verbally humiliated by my mother (taking his gifts and throwing them against the wall, for example), he still believes her to be an angel because of her “traditional values”.
I’ve been hit on by women of all races. It’s actually fairly common (or was when I was younger, probably not so much now, there is, in my case, a truth to Eurasian beauty; not so much in the case of others). So I understand that women have something called autonomy – they don’t sit around waiting for a “good guy” with XXXXXX bank account to marry.
I’m not talking about approaching women – most men can get dates like that after a certain point in their life after they accumulate enough capital; I’m talking about having certain qualities that make women approach you when you’re young (i.e., looks, good hair, height, narrow-tapered waist and broad shoulders, confidence, non-neurotic behavior).
A lot of white guys go their whole lives never attracting attention from a white woman in the west; they go to Asia and suddenly are approached by Asian women, or are approached by Asian American women, and they think this is indicative of a moral agency, rather than, in objective terms, bias, or even worse, ulterior motives. (By moral agency, I mean that it is assumed that they like “traditional values,” as embodied by a white man).
Most men completely lack the self-awareness and experience to discern between a foreign woman’s “attention” and genuine love, which, if she had been living in her own space for 20-some odd years, would at very least have leveled against a single local guy, at one point in her life.
Anyways, my dad was and is an extreme paleoconservative. But it doesn’t have anything to do with his politics. There was no way in hell he could ever have landed a white woman; to this date he is unable to make prolonged eye contact with most other people. He mistook my mother’s affection for him as a sign of morality when in fact it was his height and blue eyes that were the draw.
Their entire marriage was a hell of death threats, separate bedrooms, swinging knives, verbal abuse, sexlessness, and yet he still couldn’t see it. He couldn’t imagine that a woman that scorned her own race of men wasn’t exactly sane.
The reason he didn’t know this was because he has never been with an Asian woman who liked her own men or a woman who liked Asian men; I am, and the differences are staggering. She adores children, is traditionally beautiful by Chinese standards, constantly gets complimented on her looks, and told me when we first went out that she “would never had said yes were I not half Chinese,” and that her primary qualification for a partner was “stability” and a “stable life.” I’ve also noticed in my life that the women interested in me had a tendency towards real beauty (not just mini-skirt hotness) and came from “normal” backgrounds; i.e., Jewish women, Caribbean immigrants, Indian, Mexican and Polish immigrants.
This is exactly a contrast to a woman who wants “a foreign husband,” because this entails a fantasy about what life with a foreigner is like, and when the fantasy proves to be different from her mental ideal, she will exhibit the childish, psychotic behavior that made her unable to differentiate between fantasy and reality in the first place.
Of course I expect the collective IQ of the “yellow fetishists” who read this blog to be too low to understand this post, so I leave you with the warning that being a piece of shit and marrying a piece of shit is fine.
The problem is that your son will be half-Asian and the ball is up in the air after that.
I’m sure they were, and I’m not being sarcastic. I mean it.
It’s convenient though that love appears to be so color-centric.
Was your mother escaping poverty? Was she too unattractive to find a decent Asian male? If so, yes, it may very well be, and is love.
My mother wasn’t. She deliberately sought out a white male. There are millions of these women and they don’t merely just pass along through life and die; they create children.
I had the privilege of seeing exactly what happens when a woman seeking the All American Prince Charming and the White Picket Fence lifestyle got stuck with a balding office worker and an eight hundred square foot apartment nowhere near a subway line.
Love no longer became a delusion of mine. Pray tell me – assuming white dad was no longer able to provide mom with the fantasy of whiteness and American inclusion – would she still love him?
Mine didn’t. In fact, love wasn’t even there when they first met, and there wasn’t enough money to keep the “love” balloon inflated for more than a few years.
Being biracial is an incredibly complex issue, especially considering when the majority of biracial people tend to fall along similar lines of parentage. It is oxymoronic for any bi-racial group to develop a healthy identity when it is saturated with latent implications of racial-gendered superiority and inferiority.
(In layman’s terms, do you really expect millions of Hapas, born overwhelmingly to parents who thought Asian men unattractive – let’s be honest, that’s what’s going on, and surrounded by Asian women who hate Asian men, are going to be normal?)
Hypothesis: The frequency of the relationships between White males and Asian women (as opposed to the infrequency of the relationship between Asian men and White women) is primarily based on the uniform higher status, higher economic standing or biological desirability of white men…
…the intentional or unintentional universal undesirability or lower status of Asian males – explaining the monumentally unbalanced interracial dating ratios. Eurasian sons, in particularly, are largely considered Asian men and fail to benefit from the social and sexual freedom (i.e., not being stereotyped as misogynist and / or asexual) their fathers had, unless they are extremely lucky, and live with the baggage of a peculiar kind of pairing that is weighed with heavy sociological implications.
Regardless of any politicized or non-politicized belief, politically correct or not, the fact remains from both empirical evidence provided by Eurasians (not by white men or Asian women), and data aggregated by /r/Hapas, that Eurasians are still constantly reminded that they are of less value than white men, even by women who will someday become future mothers to Asian looking Eurasian sons and even by the men who themselves are the fathers to Asian looking Eurasian sons.
Let’s say you did not know your mother and father.
Let’s also say, for this thought exercise, that you were fully Asian. Or as a Hapa, that you looked fully Asian.
In a time of trouble, i.e., a climate of extreme racism, violence against Asians, mass lynchings, extreme anti-Asian propaganda, yellow peril, war with China or North Korea after 2016 elections, etc.
Would your parents (as strangers) have cared about you? Would your mother (as a stranger) have sympathized with you? Would they have reached out to you as an Asian male? Would they have attempted to bolster the community?
This is actually a legitimate question we all as Hapas need to ask ourselves.
I expect most of you to answer: no
To most of the questions. Wake up call, Hapa kiddos.
Being mixed race actually sucks a huge amount, and I believe this relates back to the primitive urges and desires and psyche that exists in every last human being, regardless if we admit this or not. But more importantly, in the real world, being mixed is simply the result of two young people idealizing the other’s culture and appearance, and having kids, who are then excluded from economic, social and romantic opportunities that both parents found easily because of their privilege (White men and Asian women are extremely privileged in society).
I suggest this be read by both whites, Asians, and mixed race people. I will try to keep this objective.
I am quite resentful about certain things and while it is normal for people to be resentful I do imagine that life can be simplified when we maintain the status quo as defined by nature; despite it being good for ones ego to be validated by another race (of men or women) the effects on the child are well documented, yet completely ignored.
Most people really do believe that being a Hapa is some kind of blessing – but the people that say this are people who are not mixed, or people who went through periods of extreme confusion and stress to only come out of it with a renewed mentality.
In my case, I went through a period of having no stress (I was crazy, but didn’t pinpoint it to my race) – to arriving at the conclusion that being mixed absolutely sucks.
The myth of the “beautiful Hapa” was only engineered as a justification for people with trans-racial lust and fetishization. Note that the claim that all Hapas are beautiful and intelligent is extremely racist since it implies that they are better because they have white blood.
This blog has been up for quite a while and I don’t think I’ve ever received a proper response to the questions posed – namely how a male child is supposed to function when born under the conditions of power and imbalance between the races that favor the white male and disfavor the Asian male;
The only response I did receive was one that said that I should use my “white blood” to my advantage; ironically in doing so I could probably achieve more in life, but it would be a betrayal of myself, and the extreme nihilism of doing this won’t really ever make me able to get over my extreme distaste for my mother (long, long before I realized who she really was I had nightmares about her maybe two-three times a week for 10 years, and I was told by an old classmate that I was laughing at her funeral).
Some of the things I feel resentful about, as a WM/AW Hapa.
I feel resentful that I am considered “better” because of my white blood; I would rather face the full brunt of racism than have to live with the knowledge of being superior because of my whiteness.
I actually was not fully taught to deal with racism, it was only after entering my 20’s when my appearance became more Asian looking that I was faced with racism and unable to cope with it in a rational way.
I feel resentful that I am treated differently than how I would be treated were I fully Asian. I would prefer to be aware of people’s true feelings rather than be treated accordingly with my white features.
I feel resentful that I was lied to about success, when Asian women like my mother gladly sleep with losers like my father provided they are white.
I feel resentful, now having been to China, that I am excluded from a burgeoning economy and a culture of amazing advancement, simply because my mother had a fetish.
I feel resentful that people are naturally clannish;
In this regard I feel resentful that the culture my mother had the audacity to raise me in (Chinese), excludes me from employment, from social life, and from true inclusion, despite me considering myself culturally Chinese.
I feel resentful that my mother valued whiteness, which implies I have to betray half of myself to meet the acceptable standards of my own mother.
I feel resentful in being taught to be proud to be Chinese, yet only under the conditions that I had a white father.
I feel resentful that the women that I feel I have a natural bond with prefer white males (most men subconsciously prefer women who resemble their mothers); including my own parents.